Rebuilding self-esteem after experiencing hurt can be a challenging but ultimately empowering journey. I created a video on our YouTube channel from one of our Tuesday’s Tea sessions in our Affinity Lounge Women’s group, talking about this topic; you can CHECK IT OUT HERE.

Otherwise, here are some steps that can help you regain your confidence and sense of self-worth, especially after experiencing hurt:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s important to recognize and accept your emotions rather than suppress them. Allow yourself to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed. Validating your emotions is the first step towards healing.
2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Hurt often leads to negative self-talk and beliefs. Pay attention to your inner dialogue and actively challenge any thoughts that undermine your self-worth. Replace them with more realistic and positive affirmations.
3. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would treat a friend going through a tough time. Self-compassion involves being gentle with yourself, accepting imperfections, and recognizing that everyone makes mistakes or faces setbacks.
4. Set Realistic Goals: Break down larger goals into smaller, achievable steps. Accomplishing these goals, no matter how small, can boost your self-esteem and provide a sense of accomplishment.
5. Celebrate Your Strengths: Reflect on your strengths, talents, and accomplishments. Make a list of these positive qualities and revisit it when you need a confidence boost.
6. Surround Yourself with Support: Seek out friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide encouragement and validation. Talking about your feelings with supportive individuals can help you gain perspective and feel less alone.
7. Engage in Activities You Enjoy: Invest time in hobbies and activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Doing things you love can improve your mood and provide a sense of purpose.
8. Practice Mindfulness or Meditation: These practices can help you stay grounded in the present moment and reduce stress and anxiety. They can also promote self-awareness and self-acceptance.
9. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to activities or people that drain your energy or make you feel bad about yourself. Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting your self-esteem and well-being.
10. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you find it difficult to cope with hurtful experiences or if your self-esteem issues are deeply rooted, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide guidance and tools tailored to your specific needs.

Remember that rebuilding self-esteem is a gradual process that requires patience and self-compassion. Be gentle with yourself and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. With time and effort, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience.

love always,

dani

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